Question of the Day: You're dating someone you're totally "into" but you can't stand their hair style. What do you do?

One of my client's has been seeing a woman for a couple months now that he really likes a lot; however, he detests her hairstyle and would like for her to change it. We have both been mulling over ways that he can broach this subject to her in a polite way, so as to not hurt her feelings. It seems like a simple thing to address, but it definitely takes some tact and sensitivity. What if, in turn, she's offended and feels he's being shallow and believes that her hairstyle is not who she is and shouldn't be an issue for him?

I suppose I can see both sides of the equation because, let's face it, we've all dated someone before that we felt we were totally attracted to, but if they would just change that one thing... A girlfriend of mine was recently dating a gentleman that she really liked and she said, "Man! I'm so into him, but if only he would completely shave the hair off around the base of his head!" She asked me what she should say to him and I said, "How about something like: Gee, you have such a nice head, it would look so good completely bald. Have you ever thought about shaving all of your hair off?" I know that I personally respond better when people point out the positives first and tell me what they like versus what's not workin' for me.

So, what are some suggestions for people who would like for their partner's to make a simple change so that they can feel more attracted to them?

Question of the Day: What would you do if your best friend's partner came onto you?

This was a suggested question for me today and I have to say, it gets brought up often. While it's disappointing to think that significant others hit on their mate's best friend's, it does happen. So what should one do as the recipient of untoward advances? Do you approach your BFF and tell them? Do you tell their partner they better tell their S/O or else you will? If they're a Pamela Andersson or George Clooney clone, do you say, "F#!@ it", throw caution to the wind, go for it and hope it stays on the Q.T.? What is the proper protocol here?

Question of the Day: If you had the chance to be on "The Dating Game", would you rather be the "Questioner" or the "Questionee"?

This isn't just a random question folks! Mark your calendars for Thursday, June 17th, as Princeton Elite Club will be joining forces with the comedy club "Catch a Rising Star" (located at the Hyatt in Princeton, NJ) where we will host "The Dating Game". This evening will be packed with lots of comedic talent as real-life singles contest to win a shot at love...or...okay, maybe just a date! We're gonna bring back the days of yore when all ya had to do was go on a game-show, answer questions about your romantic maneuvers and blow a kiss out to the audience, in order to find your potential mate!

Question of the Day: Do you think singles act differently in bars today versus 20 years ago?

I was listening to the radio yesterday morning and heard a woman in her mid-40's talking about her experience with going out over the past weekend. She's newly separated from her husband and decided to try venturing out and seeing if she could rehash her "clubbing" days. She said she was horrified to discover that men were much more aggressive and claimed her butt was grabbed several times throughout the course of the night. When the DJ pressed her on this and said maybe it was because her butt more "grab-able" these days, she firmly denied it and said she felt the singles scene has totally changed and not what she recalled from her youth. Do you agree? Do you think single people are more bold today? Or do you think, perhaps, our perception's and/or expectations have evolved and we're maybe more apt to see things we may otherwise have overlooked in our youth?

Question of the Day: On average, when on a first date, how long does it take you to determine if you would like to see this person again?

I've seen research that suggests for women it takes, on average, approximately 30 minutes into the date to determine if she would like to see him again. And get this! For men the average is 17 seconds it takes for him to make the consideration! The data claims that because men are initially attracted to their female counterparts on physical attraction, it takes only mere seconds for him to determine if he is responsive to her features and to know if he would or would not like to see her again. For women, it's different because we tend to be attracted to men based on a culmination of attributes such as openness, intelligence, humor, looks, etc., and we tend to need more time in figuring out our attraction level to our dates'. This said, however, there have GOT to be exceptions to every rule and I'm curious to hear from my own corral, their experiences with the length of time they usually invest before establishing if there will or won't be a call-back?

Question of the Day: Have you ever accidentally called your partner by your ex's name?

If the answer is "yes", how'd that go over? I can envision a sneering, seething partner huddled up in the corner, arms crossed and eyes fixated on you waiting for your profuse apologies. Well, we've all slipped up from time to time and when you spent a significant amount of time and/or your life with one specific partner, it can be difficult to retrain your long term memory habits. I mean, most times it's not as if you're still pining away for your ex and longing to be with them again. Usually it's just from brain overload and you going on auto-pilot and blurting out a verbal sequence pattern that slips off the tongue effortlessly from past continual use. Have to admit though, no matter how much reasonable explaining you do to soften your mistaken moniker blow, there's not a whole lot one can say to take away that initial sting.

Question of the Day: In a new relationship, do you ever think it's appropriate to ask, "How many sex partners have you had?"

You know that gut-wrenching music that comes on during a horror flick right before something bad is about to happen? Many people can testify to hearing it when asked how many sex partners they've had. The possible implications of being completely forthright in answering this question could be devastating to the future of a relationship. It could also be an insignificant detail, depending upon the person who is asking. Consider this, men, generally speaking, will have more sex partners on average over their lifetime than women. So in the case of a guy, most women are not expecting you to have slept with less people than she has, but she is expecting the number to be somewhat "respectable". Most women actually are reluctant to want to know the answer to this, but ask the question they will! In the case of women, men are definitely expecting that their sex number is less than his. One reason is most men like to know they are more sexually experienced than their female counterpart. Both men and women view great promiscuity in mates as undesirable; which begs the question, if you're truly interested in getting to know and date this person, why even ask it to begin with? And, anyway, is it really any of your business?