Thursday, January 26, 2012

Don't Hope, Friend...Decide!

My friend and author ("Excuse Me, Your Life is NOW") Doreen Banaszak recently sent me this feel good story that one of her client's personally shared with her. It's so inspirational and uplifting, I wanted to share it with all of you...

While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life changing experiences that you hear other people talk about. You know, the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly? Well, this one occurred a mere two feet away from me! Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jetway, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family. First, he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, and movingly loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other's face, I heard the father say, "It's so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!" His son smiled somewhat shyly, diverted his eyes, and replied softly, "Me too, Dad!"

Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe 9 or 10) and while cupping his son's face in his hands he said, "You're already quite the young man. I love you very much Zach!" They too hugged a most loving, tender hug. His son said nothing. No reply was necessary. While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one and a half) was squirming excitedly in her mother's arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, "Hi babygirl!" as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder and remained motionless in total pure contentment.

After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, "I've saved the best for last!" and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed, "I love you so much!" They stared into each other's eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands. For an instant, they reminded me of newlyweds but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn't be. I puzzled about it for a moment, then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm's length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I were invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, "Wow! How long have you two been married?" "Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those," he replied without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife's face. "Well then, how long have you been away?" I asked. The man finally looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile and told me, "Two whole days!"

Two days?! I was stunned! I was certain by the intensity of the greeting I just witnessed that he'd been gone for at least several weeks, if not months, and I know my expression betrayed me. So I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), "I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!" The man suddenly stopped smiling. He looked me straight in the eye, and with an intensity that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, "Don't hope friend...decide." Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, "God bless!" With that, he and his family turned and energetically strode away together. I was still watching that exceptional man and his special family walk just out of sight when my friend came up to me and asked, "What'cha looking at?" Without hesitating, and with a curious sense of certainty, I replied, "My future!"

We all HOPE for something or someone in our lives' to come along in order make us feel better or complete or secure or enriched or whatever. Isn't it wonderful to know that we can literally DECIDE to have what we want to experience? For example, Michelle, the woman I interviewed today on my new show "The Kari Adams Show" on Princeton's local TV30 (airing date TBA), held the intention and decided that she was going to find a husband online when she first began her search on E-Harmony.

Did it happen overnight? No. She went on several dates but remained hopeful and didn't fret when they didn't pan out because, as she reminded herself, her decision had already been made and that her husband-to-be was out there looking for her. Well, wouldn't you know, she eventually did meet "him" and says the minute she read his profile she had that special feeling that whispered, "This could be the one!" She's been married for a little over two months now and I can tell you, we barely needed lighting today at the studio because she literally lit up the room with her glow.

Are you ready to decide what your future will look like? If so, it's time to email me and allow me to help you create it!

Monday, January 23, 2012

Why NOT me?

This weekend I had an epiphany - I absolutely LOVE what I do! Meeting new and interesting people and figuring out ways to make love connections is the most rewarding, fulfilling job on the planet! Unfortunately, I seem to be in the minority lately when I hear tale after tale of job dissatisfaction out there. It's no wonder I meet with so many people who are having a difficult time finding a mate when they can't stand their current job or profession. Think about it, when you spend most of your days at your job that you happen to loathe, it only makes sense those thoughts and feelings would bleed into other major areas of your life.

As I was contemplating my good fortune of loving what I do, I heard a voice that told me to reach out to my sister and tell her she needed to quit her job and start her own catering and interior design company. Now mind you, I haven't spoken to my sister in months and since she lives in California, I don't see her often, so I have no idea what she's currently up to. (By the way, "Intuit with psychic abilities" needs to be added to my resume!)

I tried to shush this annoying voice, but it got so loud, the only thing I could do was text her in order to shut the damn thing up. She quickly responded saying, "I can't believe you're saying this. I just created this new recipe that I've been working on trying to perfect and I was telling myself how fun it would be to sell these to local wineries and restaurants. I've been so miserable in my job lately and wanting to quit and start something up that I'm passionate about."

I told her that this was what she needed to be doing and because cooking, decorating and entertaining was her ultimate joy, the money would follow. She said, "You're right, I need to do what I love. I'm going to start working on my new career right away! Kari, thank you so much for motivating me."

When we are in the flow of life, loving what we do, loving those around us, loving our homes and environments, loving ourselves, everything seems to easily and effortlessly line up for us. All it takes is a change in our thoughts to go from miserable to joyful; its that simple. If you're reinforcing your misery by remaining in an unhappy job day in and day out, now is the time to ask yourself why?

I know most of you are probably screaming at your computer screens, "Kari, I have bills to pay," or "There aren't any jobs out there, Kari! I'm lucky enough to have this one." Really? That's your excuse? Like in finding love, many of us have the propensity to stick to our stories and hold onto them for dear life, "All men want younger women," "Women only want a successful man who's wealthy, " "There aren't any good men/women out there," "Online dating doesn't work," "There are just a bunch of creeps out there," etc, etc, etc, nauseum etc!!!

These "stories" aren't true and I have plenty of evidence to back that up! There are literally billions of people in this world, so why are so many of us lonely? Jobs are opening up as we speak and new entreprenuerships start everyday. Why can't you be one of the ones making hand over fist doing what you're passionate about? So, the next time a happy, loving, canoodling couple walks past you on the street, instead of chortling to yourself about how obnoxious they look as you roll your eyes up into the back of your head, say to yourself, "Why not me?" And then shout out a big thank you to the universe for sending you a little gentle reminder about what's possible!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

How Do You SLEEP at Night!

Do you know that you are constantly sending out energy signals throughout each day by your thoughts and actions? And are you willing to consider that some of those patterns and conditioned behaviors are the very things that are keeping love away?

Entertain me if you will...

I was having a conversation with a client of mine the other day and she was telling me that she was doing "all the right" things in order to meet her next partner. She's active in her community, travels all over the globe with friends and sometimes alone, goes to social events regularly, has a great job that allows her to meet new people, plays tennis and skiis regularly, etc. She asked me why it was that "he" wasn't showing up?

While I didn't have a pat answer for her, I was able to determine that perhaps with all that she is doing, perhaps she isn't leaving any space in her life for him to enter? I asked her where she slept at night in her bed, on the side or in the middle. She answered somewhere in between. "Let me ask you this," I asked, "If he was in there with you, would there be room? Or would you need to move over in order to give him some space?" She said she would need to move over, so I told her to start doing that now. "Act as if he is already there and you will be amazed by the results. You need to shift your energy so it is in alignment with what you are wanting."

Think about it, when you have invited guests to your home, do you park your car right in the middle of the driveway right before they arrive? No. You move it over to the side or put in the garage to allow room for them. Why? Because you are expecting their arrival and want them to be accommodated when they get there. And have you ever invited a group of people to come over only to have no one show up? I'm going to venture never. Why do they show up? Expectation. And its the same with finding love - you can shift your energy now so that you are expecting the changes you want and the universe won't be able but to help bring those results to you.

I then asked my client what her closets looked like and she said, "Well they're packed. C'mon, I'm a woman and I need room for my clothes." Have you ever been to a couple's house and seen only women's clothing in the closets? Okay, I'll admit, usually the chick gets most of the closet real estate, but there are men's clothing in there too...that is if the dude's not a cross-dressing recluse! I told her that I was certain if I went to her closet, I could pick out a stack of clothing that she no longer wears that could easily be given away without missing them for a second. And further, now is the perfect time to get rid of the things that are using up her energy so that she could make room for "his" clothes. If you are questioning the validity of these steps, then I challenge you: how badly do you want change? Isn't it worth a shot to make some minor adjustments in your life to see if you can create space for something you really want?

Here's a part of an email I received from a past client who is newly engaged and used her energy signals to find love:

"Kari - Thanks for the well wishes on my engagement. I have to tell you, had I not contacted you and went out with some of your members, I wouldn't have had the confidence to go online and find Matt. You really helped me get out of my own way and to show me how to change my thinking. It was only after going on the dates you sent me on and talking with you afterwards that got me to change how I was sending out the smoke signals!"

Yeah, yeah...I know, I can't take the credit for the actual introduction to the man this woman is now engaged to, but I can take ownership of helping this client to change her energy signals so that she could be in a space to allow love into her life. So what about you? Is there room in your bed, your closet, your schedule, your life for another person to enter? Where can you create space to allow for that someone special to come into?

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Aren't you SO over online dating stories like this one...

So, I'm watching "The Bachelor" last night and finding myself really intrigued as smart and sassy Emily woos Ben on their romantic one-on-one date. That is, up until the moment Ben probes Emily about her single status and she confesses her online dating horror story.

She was tired of being single so she decided, "What the hell? I'm going to give online dating a shot," and she fastidiously filled out the lengthy questionairre on EHarmony and submitted it with fingers crossed. She gets excited when her computer sounds off and chirps that she has a new match in her inbox.

Excitedly she runs to her screen, opens her mail and reads all about her perfect match. From his description he sounds like a catch and exactly what she's looking for in a guy. She decides to delve further by opening the link to his photo with eager anticipation. Could you imagine her utter dismay and horror when she realizes her "ideal match" is her one and only BROTHER?????? Could you die?????

Are you tired of similar online dating scenarios? Have you had it with blind dates arranged by well meaning friends or family members whose idea of "a perfect match" is light years from yours'? Are you fed up with hearing your own voice reminding you that the clock is ticking and that you need to get out there and find your soul mate already?

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, you are clearly not alone. This month in particular I have received record breaking inquiries about my dating programs and matchmaking services. I have also heard relationship success stories in record numbers as well, so I have to conclude that people are setting their intentions' to find love and making them their reality.

Isn't now the time for you to set your intention that this is the year you will find love? If not now, then when? Why miss out on what so many other fortunate people are experiencing at this very moment? Now is the only time you have, this day, this moment. What are you going to choose to do with it?

Can you imagine yourself in a loving relationship with an amazing partner? Well, I'm here to tell you, if you can imagine it, you can have it! The only difference between yourself and someone who has what you want is intention.

If you would like help in creating your intention to let this finally be the year you will find love, write me an email at and we will start an action plan for you right away to unveil the fulfilling life you were meant to live!

Thursday, January 12, 2012

I Think I've Gone CRAZY!

In lieu of my brief daliance with insanity by offering a 20% discount off my program fees, I only have 3 spots left that I am accepting by the deadline of 1/15/12. That's this Sunday folks, so if you've been considering joining either my New Years Program or matchmaking services, get on the stick and take ADVANTAGE of my lapse in sound and reasonable judgement. This discount will most likely not be offered again any time soon...unless, of course, I clone myself, acquire some Oompa Loompas or lose my mind again. (Ya never know with me!)

Also, don't forget...
Sunday Morning Brunch in Downtown Princeton, Sun, 1/15/12

If you're single (newly, perpetually, desperately, happily, whatever...) please come and join us for a Sunday morning brunch in downtown Princeton at the famous Winberies Restaurant. We will have our very own private room designated just for us so that we can convene and enjoy a wonderful and reputable buffet brunch in a quiet setting. For more information, please click on the "Social Events" tab on my website.

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Don't you just hate when this happens...

Its a liesurely day at home or the office...'re sitting at your computer, totally inspired as you effortlessly write an email to its recipient while words flow out of you as if from thin air. You stop to take a break from your psuedo novella and reread what you've written so far and marvel at your own brilliance as you smirk and say to yourself, "Damn I'm good!" Then suddenly as if to mock you for feeling entirely too damn good about yourself, your little omnipotent data process machine decides to short circuit causing a freeze which leaves you completely perplexed forcing you to agonizingly wait...wait...wait. And then wait some more. After 5 minutes of sitting in sheer-code-red-I-wanna-throw-this-damn-thing-out-my-front-door-into-the-street-to-leave-for-the-feral-varmints-to-have-their-way-with frustration (okay, for me its more like 20 seconds!) the only left to do is hit backspace at which point it takes you back to your ORIGINAL destination of Empty Email Template HELL!

Uh huh...yep, this has happened to me now not once, but 3 times in the past 24 hours. Today, however, when it happened YET again, I made a conscious decision to react differently. I remembered how the previous two emails had not only eventually been rewritten and gone out to their addressees, they actually were better emails than the ones I had originally created. Has this ever happened to you?

Sometimes, I believe, we're given second (or third or fourth) chances in life so that we can "get it right" the next time around. When you're frustrated with your current circumstance, wondering why it is the way is, why things turned out the way they did, why you're alone instead of with someone, etc, think about when you got the chance to re-do something, and how much better you were for it because the end result was infinitely better.

Like with the email circling around somewhere in outer-cyper space, if you are in wait-mode, you are in a wonderful place to decipher how you will do it differently next time. Once this aspect of your life has been rewritten, you will look back and be grateful for the disruption that forced you to make some necessary changes. How great is it that we are given opportunities to recreate, redesign and reevaluate things in our lives' so that we can make them even better the next time around?

And don't forget (you knew this was coming right?), to welcome in the new year, embrace change and celebrate Princeton Elite's new program, I am offering a 20% discount (a $400 value) to members who sign on by 1/15/12.

And now...that's less than 7 days away party people so hurry up and let's get to living your damn life already!

If you would like more information about this personally tailored program for the single person interested in learning how to be all that they can be and get all that they want, please email me at:

Thursday, January 5, 2012

New year, new Facebook Status?

Happy belated new year everyone. Man, it's been so long that I've blogged, I actually forgot the URL to go to and my password. Well, I'm back and fiercer than before!!

Wow, it's been quite a busy year for me filled with challenges, spiritual growth, learning and lots and lots of re-evaluation! Its a new year and I'm so hopeful you are finding yourself in a similar place as myself; eager, encouraged and at ease about what awaits you in 2012. I see very good things in store for so many of us and I feel priveleged to have had such great opportunities to meet, speak to and work with such wonderful single folks, like yourself, over the past several years!

If you are currently unattached and wanting to find the mate of your dreams, keep in mind that it is change that you are seeking to create and as you probably recognize, that process begins with you. I know, I know...that darn magic wand just ain't doin' the trick anymore like it used to when we were 5! But, like they say, "Nothing changes if nothing changes." In welcoming this new year I ask you, what are you willing to let go of so that you can replace it with something positive that you would like to experience? Maybe its watching less meaningless TV? Perhaps its quitting bad habits such as smoking or using excessive cursing in your vocubarly? It could be letting go of the need to alter your emotional state by drinking too much alcohol, caffeine, over-eating or over-spending?

Whichever monkey it is that sits upon your back , gnawing at you to give it up because it isn't working for you anymore, I say, let it go. If it is love you are wanting to find this year, make room in your life now so that you can welcome in love. If there is something, or more importantly, someone in your life that is keeping it in a holding pattern, now is the time to release it, or them, so that you free yourself and open yourself up to all the possibilties that await you.

I have made so many positive changes in my own life, both personally and professionally within the past several months and I can't wait to share those with you over the next couple of weeks. (Okay, I can't wait to blab about one of them...but shhh, you didn't hear this from me - I'm on deck to host my very own TV show starting in February on Princeton's TV 30 which will be premised on dating, relationships, lifestyle and fun things to do in New Jersey and the surrounding areas!) But for now I'd like to inform you that I have created a new, personally tailored program like no other for motivated single people who are ready to find their ideal mate. I have incorporated everything I have learned from being a professional matchmaker, including the good, the bad and the ugly and hand crafted a life-altering program that will forever change the individual.* As a client, you will learn the most important basic skill upon which you can place no dollar amount on, that every single person wants to learn:

•How to find the perfect mate for you

*I only take on a select handful of individuals at one time, so this offering is only for highly motivated people who are ready and willing to let go and embrace change in order to find love. (Because you truly will never be the same!)

If you are interested in learning more about how my new program works, please email me at and I will personally respond to you and fill you in. And, to ring in the new year and celebrate Princeton Elite's new program, I am offering a 20% discount (a $400 value) to members who sign on for it by 1/15/12. That's just 10 days away peeps so hurry up and let's get to living your damn life already!

Oh...and by the way, have you ever watched the movie, "What the Bleep Do We Know?" O-M-G, I watched it over the holidays (Okay, I admit I had to watch it several times over because, in case you didn't know, I'm no Quantum Physicist!) and it was brilliantly mind blowing. Most of you know I'm a big fan of "The Secret" and the Law of Attraction, well this one is similar but shall I put it? On steroids! Here's the link that you can watch RIGHT NOW at your leisure in full! But be warned, only watch if you're up for major change!

All the best to you and your family for a joyous, abundant and love-filled new year!