Friday, December 17, 2010

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Thursday, December 16, 2010

Question of the Day: Where's the best place to take a first date on New Years Eve?

I suppose I first need a date, but I'll figure that part out later. What are some cool ideas, places to go, things to see, etc, outside of the quintessential ball dropping parties on New Years Eve? What's the most unique or interesting NYE date you've ever been on? I guess the most romantic New Years I ever had was the year my ex husband and I attended his best friend's wedding. I wasn't sure at first how it was going to go down and if ringing in the new year would be a part of the nuptuals, but I have to say, it was the most extraordinarily nostaglic thing to witness and be a part of.

After they said their "I do's" and the processions concluded, the bride and groom got into a lovely horse drawn carriage and were whisked away, into the crisp, foggy night air, to the reception celebration. People milled around all evening with especially joyous spirits and, it would seem, increased amorous feelings towards their own dates/spouses.

Yes, I know weddings in general have a way of stimulating whimsical and loving feelings in folks; however, with the added notion of it being New Years Eve and knowing that the anticipation of midnight was looming, it somehow added to the allure and intrigue of the evening. It also took the pressure off of the concept of having to be at "the" party of the night. First of all, we all felt as though we already were, and secondly, we had bigger things to focus on. Love!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Question of the Day: What is or was your favorite dating game show?

Starting in the mid-60's, "The Dating Game" hosted by Jim Lange was basically the prototype dating show for other various syndications to follow suit with a similar format. Bob Eubanks kept us laughing as he emceed "The Newlywed Game" while poking fun at newly married couples. Of course, we now have the modern day reality dating shows such as "The Bachelor/The Bachelorette" where one guy or girl gets to date several people over a 6 week period while picking off candidates and eventually ending with one potential fiance.

"Dating in the Dark" is a current dating game show with a whole new daunting twist! A bachelor and a bachelorette are placed in a dark room and forced to get to know one another while having no idea what the other looks like. They then go off, and each date other potential candidates in the dark, and at the end of the show, they're forced to pick one bachelor/bachelorette whom they want to date. Of course, when they've all made their decisions, the lights come on and, hence, the real "romantic" interest is put to the test!

Over the years, due to high interest in courting singles, there's been a plethora of popular television dating shows. That said, my favorite dating game show was and continues to be "Love Connection" hosted by the charming and witty Chuck Woolery. I remember scheduling my afternoons around catching it in time so that I could watch candidates watch clips of potential dates and the candidates' hilarious commentaries on each of them.

It was uproariously funny when a candidate would reject someone they had picked to go on a date with and the date would retort back with mudslinging, dissing and completely insulting the candidate in response. Next thing you know, the two are in a full blown verbal knock-down-drag-out, and all the while, Chuck Woolery is sitting between the "two" (the date was always behind the wall being video-taped), either looking like a deer caught in the headlights or stifling the urge to belt out a huge guffaw! Ahhh...the good ol' days of quality TV programming! :-)

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Question of the Day: Have you ever dated/been with a hypochondriac?

Dr. Phil had a married couple on his show today where the husband was a severe hypochondriac. The wife complained about how tiring it was always having to try assuaging his fears that he wasn't having a heart attack, didn't have a brain tumor, a rare blood disease or what-have-you. And that it's exhausting when he gets up all night long to run to the computer to check a potential ailment or disease he might have.

It got me thinking about my own personal experiences and wondering if I've ever been with a hypochondriac. I did once date a guy who was obsessed with health and fitness and would drink protein shakes and vegetable juices all day long. I mean, our daily schedule literally revolved around him having to go home to throw ingredients into a blender or juicer because, that's not exactly something you can just do on the go. He would also take vitamins and supplements by the handfuls which always baffled me, how he didn't gag on all them.

As far as dating a full-blown hypochondriac, however, I don't think I've yet to have the honors. If anything, I've been more inclined to date the guy hacking up a lung, practically on his deathbed who refuses to go to the doctor, maintaining that it's "just a bug." Sheesh...guys and their machismo! But, since the research suggests more women are hypochondriacs than men (and yet surprisingly, we're healthier!) I suppose it makes sense I haven't had the pleasure! Oh well, I shouldn't be so quick to talk! Given my track record, I'm sure Mr. Sickly will be knockin' on my door soon enough!

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Question of the Day: When online dating, is it possible for an "average Joe/Josephine" to find love when so many people appear shallow?

This particular question comes from a fellow member. I have to say, I hear many complaints from people who call me up looking for matchmaking or who attend my singles events looking for another avenue when it comes to dating. These people are jaded and turned off by online dating because they feel as though they're being overlooked by the opposite sex because they don't look a certain way, make enough money, have the "right" career, etc. One gentleman in particlar I can remember saying to me, "Women seem to only want men online that make a lot of money and are 6 feet tall. How am I supposed to meet anyone on there when they pass me up right away just based on some numbers on my profile?"

Well, to be fair, this problem goes the other way too and I hear complaints from women just as much as men. They say things like, "Why do men base everything on looks? It's not always all about that and if they took the time to get to know me, as a person, they would love me for me." They also complain that they see the same faces over and over again online and feel as though "the good ones" are either already taken or don't bother with online dating.

I look at it this way, it's a technical TOOL that can enhance your dating life, but certainly not something to be utilized as a be all, end all to finding your happily ever after. Anytime you're searching and scouring the earth for your next soul mate, you not only aren't going to find him or her, you're very likely to attract a lot of "scraps" and, basically, people that aren't up to your standards. Its the old addage which I stand by, that when you give up and say, "Screw it! I'm done," its then that miraculously, the bus unloads and voila...enter lover stage left!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Question of the Day: You're on a date & a rock band pulls you up on stage. What do you choose to excel at? Lead singer? Lead guitar? Bass? Drums?

Okay, corny question, but I think it tells a lot about a person. Such as:

Lead Singer: Outgoing, courageous, not afraid to wear their heart on their sleeve, energetic and requires the limelight/center of attention

Bass: Likes being an integral part of a group, but doesn't need to be center of attention, thoughtful, smart, intuitive, organized, not averse to risk

Lead Guitar: Outgoing, witty, commands attention but doesn't demand it, clever, great attention to detail, organized, creative

Drums: On the outside looks crazy, rebellious and out of control, but internally there's a calmness and sense of serenity, loyal, caring, fun, spiritual

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Question of the Day: If you could have ANY holiday gift this year, what would it be? Why?

Speaking from my heart, the past couple of years have been some of the most turbulent of my life. Between divorcing my best friend of 10 years, moving twice, uprooting my children to new homes and schools, having my ex move away to another country from me and our kids, financial instability (like most Americans currently), I think I'm about ready for some peace and happiness. Yep, that's what's on my wishlist to Santa this year.

Don't get me wrong, its not that I'm an unhappy person. I like to think I can smile and find moments of happiness in any given situation, but this year, I have found such value in placing little or NO value in material possessions. This year has been one of letting go and purging things that were once burdensome. I've literally no car payment (okay, I basically drive a hoopty, but for the time being, it gets me to where I need to be), when I'm not hosting events or meeting with clients, my wardrobe consists of workout gear and sneakers. I don't belong to a gym which can be a high monthly cost, but instead enjoy getting my exercise by running along the D&R Canal and going to yoga classes that are instructed by donation.

Some say these are tough times, but I have to disagree. I think these are sobering times that have helped to raise our awareness that peace and happiness come from within and that, sometimes, we can find more happiness by having less. So, I'm taking a vow this year to give only consumable gifts such as gourmet chocolates and cookies, bath and shower gels, flower arrangements, etc. I believe that true gifts are those that don't come with a burden and that serve as reminders that the recipient is so richly deserving of enjoying the present moment.

Monday, December 6, 2010

Question of the Day: Do you get a holiday gift for someone that you really like but have only had a few dates with (more than 3, less than 10)?

My answer is yes...something small, but yet "meaningful" to the two of you. Maybe something that pertains to a sweet, endearing or funny incident that happened while on one of your dates together? Perhaps a movie on DVD that they mentioned they liked complemented with a gift card to the movies? (And a touching note saying, it has to be redeemed together!) A music CD or a book that you both discussed are always safe.

One year I had been seeing a guy that I'd only been on three dates with, and he brought me a set of wine glasses that I had mentioned on our first date that I really liked. I was so touched by it because he had taken the time to really listen to my comment at dinner about the style of my wine glass and how much I liked it. That definitely scored BIG points with me! So, I think anything that signifies something that happened or they mentioned while out with you is always your best bet!

Friday, December 3, 2010

Question of the Day: Where did you have your first kiss?

I'll never forget mine. I was with my first boyfriend and my best friend and her boyfriend. We were all cute! It was my boyfriend's birthday and we were celebrating at the theme park Great America (California's version of Six Flags). It was mid-day and we decided it was time to go on the park's landmark ride where they put a group of you in a large cage and slowly spin you around up in the air. My boyfriend's mom naively let us go on this without adult supervision, so we all thought it was the opportune time to practice our first kiss in the cage. We thought it wouldn't "count" if the boys used their hands as shields between our lips. And so, Derek put his hand over his mouth and placed it on my lips. Well wouldn't ya just know?? In the midst of our faux make out session, he slowly took his hand away and alas, I suddenly found myself engaged in my very first kiss! Oh, the memories!

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Question of the Day: What's the ONE song that instantly takes you back to an amazing moment with an S.O.?

I have too many songs that spur a visceral response from the ol' love memory banks, that it makes it difficult to choose just one. Let's see:

I'll never forget when my very first boyfriend in high school danced for me and performed the complementing hand gestures to Prince's "I Would Die for You." As I sat, blushing and giggling on his couch, I feigned embarrassment but secretly my stomach somersaulted and I thought I my heart was going to explode from sheer excitement!

"Poor Some Sugar on Me" takes me right back to the Def Leppard concert where I rocked out on the lawn with my first true love as we canoodled and kissed all night long!

"I Found Someone" by Cher puts me on the plane to Mazatlan, Mexico for my senior trip,as I envisioned finding someone to replace said aforementioned boyfriend who, just the day before, broke my heart!

Omigod, and I could never forget the moments I shared with a college boyfriend whenever he played Sade's "I Gave You All the Love" while we mac'd out on his black leather sofa! Whew!

A more recent memory is jarred whenever I hear "All Summer Long" by Kid Rock which puts me in the passenger seat of my boyfriend's car, from 2 summers ago, and him staring at me when Kid bellows, "Man, I'd love to see that girl again!"

Ahhh...good times, good times!

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Question of the Day: What's the most annoying thing someone has done to try to impress you?

I have a girlfriend who is being pursued by a guy who continually posts things on her Facebook wall about lavish trips he wants to take her on, popular concerts he wants to take her to, day spa treatments he wants to indulge her in, etc. She says that the most annoying thing is, she knows he's completely full of it and not someone who can put his money where his mouth is, so to speak.

And that everytime she responds and takes the bait, he suddenly has to cancel or comes up with some lame excuse as to why it can't happen! It's just SO obvious to her he's all talk and trying to woo her by default. if us women were so naive!! She says its even worse and adding insult to injury when he's inviting her to juvenile or unappealing things because he's clearly just showboating and not interested in her likes and desires.

I know another woman who is basically throwing herself at a love interest of hers' as she literally stalks his every move on Facebook and Foursquare. She knows he likes to cook, so she purposely puts things in her status update about the "gourmet" meal she's in the middle of cooking (ie. "ordering") and leaves seductive messages on his wall like what she's wearing and what-not. I asked the guy if he found it flattering and he said one one hand it is, but on the other, its just so dang annoying because she's not picking up the clue phone that he's JUST NOT THAT INTO her!!