Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Question of the Day: When do you think it's appropriate to introduce your new partner to your child(ren)?
A lot of people I meet say they would never introduce the people they're dating to their children until after 6 months. In theory, I suppose that's practical, but in reality, I just don't think it's realistic. I have introduced my kids to several guys I've dated and don't regret a thing (well, okay, maybe one!!) In actuality, I am a package deal and in order to assess how the relationship is going to work out for everyone involved, all parties need to meet and learn about one another. If you trust your instincts as a parent, introducing people to your children is also a great barometer for how the relationship is going to procede as deal-breakers will show themselves sooner rather than later!
I'm not advocating bringing home every Joe Schmo you encounter; however, if you're currently dating someone and things seem to be naturally moving forward, introducing the kids within a couple of months is reasonable and important. The reality is, you cannot shield or protect your kids from the current changes of their family structure and having divorced parents means life is going to look different than it did before. If you think about it, change is inevitable in everybody's life and sometimes the younger you are at learning how to adapt, the better able you'll handle change and stress as an adult.