Volatility and upheaval coupled with amazing, intense sex tend to go hand in hand in many relationships. You know them well, and perhaps have been in a few of 'em yourself. These on and off couples bicker, fight, and break-up to make up. It's like some sick obsession with drama and sex. I'll admit it, I've been in one or two of them myself and can vividly recall all the tortorous mixed feelings of seduction, intoxication and powelessness.
Hell, take Rihanna and Eminem's new video "Love the Way You Lie" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U) for instance. It stars two insanely beautiful people (Megan Fox and Dominic Monaghan) where one minute they're beating the crap out of each other and the next going at it like two dogs in heat. Seriously? We're now so desensitized to these couplings we're unapologetically glamorizing domestic violence in #1 rated music videos?
Sorry, I digress...
I personally believe these options are not mutually exclusive and that it is possible to have a steady, peaceful, healthy relationship with a wonderful sex life. It's all about two self respecting individuals coming together and embracing happiness, trust, stability and compromise. I'll say it again, it's pretty simple, happiness is a choice!