Friday, March 26, 2010

Question of the Day: What do you do to calm pre-1st date jitters?

Take a shot of Petrone? Lounge for an hour in a hot, steamy bubble bath? Work off the excess energy at Zumba class? Call your bff and have them talk you off the ledge by reassuring you, that, yes, you ARE all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips and if he/she doesn't like you, they're high on crack and should get their head examined?

What I like to have my clients and database members do, who are really nervous before initial dates, is to write a list of all of their wonderful qualities and characteristics. Just sit down and write whatever comes to mind about all of the things that make you a fabulous partner for someone else. This is a terrific exercise to do even if you aren't about to go on a date, but would like to find a life partner. It's so simple, doesn't cost anything, just requires a pen, sheet of paper and a good dose of positive self-analysis!

Just sit back and enjoy the self adulations. It'll be like no time as has passed and the next thing you know, you'll look at those declarations and realize, "HOT damn! I AM all-that-and-a-bag-of-chips!" Re-read the list right before you meet your date and you'll walk (no, you'll saunter!) into that restaurant with your head held high and a little pep in your step! And nothing, my friends, is more attractive than a confident, self aware person!

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