Alright, this question comes from a fellow PEC member who also happens to be a friend of mine. This is what she writes: Recently started dating a guy. Went out about 4 times, he contacts me daily, either in morning or at night before bed or both. Things seem to be going well. This guy texts me late one night after not hearing from him all day. Texts start innocent and then become increasingly sexually graphic. I don't respond with same, but with "speechless" and "guess u should plan something special", etc. Finally, I'm 'rubbed the wrong way', and he apologizes and asks if he was 'out of line'. When I tell him that I really don't know him that well and am still trying to 'figure him out' and that perhaps things said in a text come across differently than by voice, he says he understands. Haven't heard from him since.
My response: UGHHHHHHHHH!!!! I can't tell you HOW many times this has happened to me. Ladies, what have we learned when we don't hear from a guy all day long and suddenly our phone's start to beep or ring late at night? What kind of call do we call that?? Anyone??? Uh huh...yep, girlfriend! You got it. That's a big ol' booty call!! I have to say (and it's happened more times than I care to admit), any guy I dated that did this type of thing WAY too soon in the relationship, I didn't keep around much longer. He showed me who he was right then and there. It's really all about SELF RESPECT. Something in your own subconsciousness is saying, "Hey, I'm in a low place. Come disrespect me because right now, I don't have a whole lot of that goin' on for myself either!" And so, what are you getting? Yep, someone to validate the story you're making up in your head! Bottom line, if you have to ask the question in the first place, "Is he just interested in me sexually or does he really like me and want to date me?" may just be the little whisper in your ear that might soon become a shout! Ladies, always follow your instincts....they usually never lead you astray!