My response: UGHHHHHHHHH!!!! I can't tell you HOW many times this has happened to me. Ladies, what have we learned when we don't hear from a guy all day long and suddenly our phone's start to beep or ring late at night? What kind of call do we call that?? Anyone??? Uh huh...yep, girlfriend! You got it. That's a big ol' booty call!! I have to say (and it's happened more times than I care to admit), any guy I dated that did this type of thing WAY too soon in the relationship, I didn't keep around much longer. He showed me who he was right then and there. It's really all about SELF RESPECT. Something in your own subconsciousness is saying, "Hey, I'm in a low place. Come disrespect me because right now, I don't have a whole lot of that goin' on for myself either!" And so, what are you getting? Yep, someone to validate the story you're making up in your head! Bottom line, if you have to ask the question in the first place, "Is he just interested in me sexually or does he really like me and want to date me?" may just be the little whisper in your ear that might soon become a shout! Ladies, always follow your instincts....they usually never lead you astray!
ugh. how do expect a guy to ask for sex? 4 dates? loosen up already! no one thinks you're a slut! if you're too prude to accept your sexuality, just go be a hermit already. there is ZERO wrong with a booty call. i'm freakin' MARRIED and STILL send my wife texts like these. you should be flattered that he is so attracted to you that not only does he wants to DATE you, but he also wants to get down with ya!
ReplyDeletenot every guy is a scumbag and not every guy just wants your goodies. if he texts you in the AM or PM or both with innocent stuff, the one day he sends you some dirty stuff, how does that, in any way, come across as disrespectful??
get off your high horse and get on the same page as this guy or he's gonna ditch you for someone that doesn't think their crown is jewel-laden enough.
Hey, I'm all about "gettin' jiggy wit it" and being seduced by my partner; however, when a man LEADS with this behavior from the get-go, it could be a sign that he may just want to hit it 'n run. No high horse here, just have seen it TOO often that when people hit the sheets right away, it most often leads to the demise of the relationship. Just my $.02.
ReplyDelete"Went out about 4 times, he contacts me daily, either in morning or at night before bed or both. Things seem to be going well. This guy texts me late one night after not hearing from him all day. Texts start innocent and then become increasingly sexually graphic."
ReplyDeletehe didn't lead with that behavior. he showed very good behavior until after the 4th date which, by some folks' standards, is long enough to wait before requesting a booty call.
I see your perspective and recognize that you feel he's "owed" some sex. Let me ask you this, should a woman give it up before she herself is ready because she feels obligated and/or pressured? Do men mind this?
ReplyDeleteIt's just sex. If they are two young adults, they should have no problem with this type of situation.
ReplyDeleteIt seems to me that by what the girl has said in her email, her "mental barriers" are the real problem here. It can take quite some time for them to disolve.
Both are playing the same game: he is being forward; she, coy. And, at the end of the day, she is the one that has kept power because she has not been seduced by him.