Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Question of the Day: At what point does a friendship with the opposite sex, cross over into an emotional affair?
I was saddened, yet albeit not totally surprised, by the news of the recent celebrity marriage break-up, between Courtney Cox and David Arquette. Supposedly on Howard Stern, David had disclosed that, although he had also been unfaithful, Courtney had been having an emotional affair with one of her co-stars on "Cougar Town" for sometime now. I'm assuming by this term, he's making the reference that they were emotionally "involved" without a physical relationship.
This topic really got me dissecting the term "emotional affair." If you think about it, its wrought with all sorts of innuendo and gray area. I mean, just because we find ourselves one day in a monogomous relationship, doesn't ultimately mean we can no longer have friendships with the opposite sex. And just because you work closely with someone daily, doesn't automatically make for a recipe of an instant affair.
If you are either married or in a relationship, and you have a close friendship with someone of the opposite sex, at what point would that relationship cross over into an emotional affair? Is it the first sign of a physical reaction when around them such as butterflies in the stomach or sexual chemistry? Would harmless flirting be considered an affair? Is it after the two of you share personal information about yourself and/or your relationship with your partner? When, exactly, do you feel that the lines get crossed from a friendly companionship into an an inappropriate emotional relationship?