Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Question of the Day: What was the longest you stayed in a relationship that you knew you were better off leaving?
We've all done it, stayed too long in a bad relationship. Do we do this because we're putting off the inevitable pain of the break-up? Are some of us just too scared to be alone, so we choose to stay in less than satisfying relationships? Perhaps there's family or societal pressure to keep the union intact. For whatever reason, many people convince themselves that having this relationship in their lives' is better than not and that the change of ending it, would just be too much to endure.
My constant phrase is, "As long as you are staying with the wrong person, the door remains bolted shut for the right one to enter." It's Universal law that in order for a good thing to enter your life, the bad one that's holding its space, must first be removed. I feel its worth experiencing a bit of pain, discomfort and inconvenience of ending a bad relationship upfront, than staying too long in something that's a deadend. And the longer it lags on, the more you're investing in this person and delaying your own liberation and ultimate happiness.
So if you're currently in a relationship that isn't making you happy, you should seriously consider ending it. If you're staying for your partner you ought to realize that you aren't doing this person any favors by staying with them out of pity. And actually, you're deceiving them by allowing them to think that you're committed to them when really, you aren't - at least in your heart.
Maybe you aren't ready to take the plunge just yet, so try envisioning what your life would look like without this partnership. Are you freer? Happier? Uninhibited? Joyous? When it comes to dating and relationships, I feel you're much better off being alone and unattached than being with someone who doesn't inherently make you happy. Afterall, you have the ability to make yourself happy, and a happy person is very attractive, so it won't be long until the right person comes along!